Adoption secular

Connections:


 * Adoption theo

Scope:


 * Adoption and foster care I'm general, not theological

Notes from Magner conversation
Dayton international adoption agency

Open adoption + birth mother chooses parents. You make a boom introducing self to potential mothers

Not a waiting list situation

Strong racism built into children that they are reprogramming.

Varying degrees of contact with birth family - the more the better. Never secrets.

They experience a lot of racism from African Americans. But also not.

"How much did you pay for them?"

Lots of every day interactions w normal people that are odd. How much story to tell.

Intentionally exposed them to diverse school, African American culture

Dorothy was 5, Rey was 3

Process took 4yrs from app to them coming into home

Was trying domestic, hard in MI, 5yr do nothing, earthquake catalyst

Thought about foster

Foster to adopt is not a guarantee.

You get lots of gov support, medical insurance stuff, $$

Pure adopt international, medical harder than natural children

Next step - decide method, and age range and stuff, then contact org

Lutheran org, Bethany Christian services, etc

Get details from each org -process, costs

Dossier of all info about you is like 3 in thick

1yr dossier, 1yr of silence or occassional correction. Notify and intent to adopt. 2yrs silence while paperwork goes through.

Maybe same amount of time (4yrs) for domestic

Advice from her: get an adoption therapist, get one with good education and experience, how do you respond when you kids do x?

Advice: identify people who live close who can invest / babysit

Definitely not both people work external

You might not emotionally bond with them, for years. Like 10 hugs in 5yrs.

People who adopted 18mo, very violent.

Orgs prefer that "birth order" matches age

Rule difference between adopted of different ages, all customized rules, it will be unfair